Oh hey, tumblr did it again. Broke someone trying to be civil (not always perfectly, but evidently aware and openly trying), but who wouldn’t follow the grain. Different is bad, especially when it isn’t “different” enough. Who knew celebrating love of a different variety than the one you choose to celebrate was such a sin?
That isn’t accurate. Fandom in general did it again, the same way it always does, tumblr or forums or wherever. Everyone else is the insular, bigoted, cruel, yadda yadda. Totally justified, right? Don’t tone police, shitlords. They had it coming, after all. Literally impossible to be wrong. You had a right to cause that suffering. Rules don’t apply, rules never apply, politeness and kindness are an archaic social constructs patriarchal neckbeards designed to get in girl’s pants, so just be free and hurt people.
Right? Blame it on the feels, if it’s wrong. What a joke.
And so another thing that makes me (and others) happy has been destroyed by the same ol’ same ol’. Passion begets attaching feelings to higher ideals of social issues and deep, personal values on the ever-potent subject of love, until a poorly developed ability to control ones thoughts/feelings/actions reaches a state resembling the fury of nations or religions at war. Thus, petty disagreements turn into something we feel the need to call a “war”, of ships, of fandoms, of what have you.
I wonder how many of the participants would say they’re are fans of war? Of conflict? Of dogma? Do they criticize the agents of those things in between exercising force (in this case, emotional/mental) in the name of a zealous cause? Do they have any regard for the application of force in a general sense, what it means and what purpose it serves and how severe a cost it truly is to all involved? I remember when I was ignorant about all of the above too. I learned, IRL and online, and I’m still learning. Some have yet to demonstrate they are capable of learning from experience. They constitute an alarming percentage of the population.
But the ones who continue the long-tenured tradition of this culture have already tuned this post out. The idea of decency and minimum levels of respect and politeness and etiquette being relevant in a modern electronic context, in the context of what is supposed to be recreation but is in practice a social warzone where one can feel successful and in control of at least one thing in their out of control life, is so patently absurd to them that no response is justifiable even in the negative. Not even a counter argument. At least not one that doesn’t amount to yelling louder. Which is of course already pre-justified in its baseness.
Perish the thought of me lamenting that. Which is partly why I keep my distance, these days.
But I’m not as talented as Bri was/is. The loss of her voice is much more significant. It almost got me excited enough to mingle again, maybe even write something of my own.
But instead I can only write the old classic: “This is why we can’t have nice things”
I don’t have a good way of ending this. The baby is ugly. Things are still ugly. I hope for the best for all involved.